Fabulously Fat Fridays: Why Posting Pictures Of Myself In Pretty Clothes On The Internet Is Radical

Here’s what I imagine some people might think about my blog: Fat acceptance! Awesome! But….all you’re doing is posting pictures of yourself in pretty clothes on the internet. How is that radical? It’s so shallow. How can fashion possibly be important when it comes to fighting for civil rights for fat people?

Fatshion is a form of activism. It’s not the most radical thing ever, but a fat person proudly posting fashionable pictures of themselves on the internet is definitely radical! It’s a totally valid part of the FA movement. Why, you ask? Well, I’ll give you a few of my reasons.

  • Fat people are not supposed to look nice. Fat is supposed to be a synonym for lazy slob. By showing our stylish selves on the internet, we are busting up stereotypes all over the place. I have several readers who run straight-sized fashion blogs, who aren’t into FA or anything, and I hope that I’m showing them a different perspective from the one they see in fashion magazines! We’re showing that fat people are normal and happy and sometimes, we’re into fashion. We’re not waiting to buy that perfect dress when we lose 10 pounds (or 100 pounds); we are rocking the hell out of it right now!
  • Fat people are supposed to be ashamed and invisible. We don’t see images of happily displayed fat bodies in the mainstream media. We don’t have much positive representation on television, in movies, on magazine pages. We have to literally retrain our brains to see fat as fabulous. We have to seek out our own positive representation. We have to create our own positive representation. Fatshion bloggers are doing just that! I know reading other fatshion blogs & then creating my own has helped me a lot in my own personal body acceptance journey, and I’m sure that’s true for others, too.
  • Fat people like fashion, too! We are building a community here of fat babes who are into fashion, and it’s awesome. We are basically sharing an interest that has a mainstream community that excludes us, so we’re creating our own community. We’re supporting each other, we’re giving each other style inspiration and shopping tips, and when the rest of the world sucks, we know there are other fabulous fashionable fatties out there. It’s not just about breaking stereotypes or hoping we can change someone’s outlook for the better; it’s about the positive impact within this community. I know every day I have a positive interaction with another awesome fat chick on the internet, that’s a happy day! Also, fashion is harder for fat people just because of a lack of resources; this internet community helps us to share the resources we find with other awesome fatties.

We can’t stop at fashion, though. This is valid and it’s important, but we have to keep the politics of it in mind, too. I know that some fat fashion bloggers wish they could just be seen as fashion bloggers who happen to be fat. Sure, in an ideal world, it wouldn’t matter. Fashion would be fashion, regardless of size. But we don’t live in that world. That much is clear when you look at the extremely limited fashionable clothing out there for fat people. Even if you don’t want it to be, what you are doing as a fat person putting these pictures out there for the world to see is political. Making the world face your existence as a fat person instead of hiding away in your lazy, unfashionable corner of the world is important, and it’s radical, even if it shouldn’t be.

A lot of this really applies to other non-normative bodies as well. If you’re thin, white, able-bodied, cisgendered, and traditionally beautiful, fashion is not really political. I mean, it’s still fun, it’s still creative, it’s still awesome. But you’re free to pursue style without the same kind of judgements. You have positive representation of stylish people who look like you available all over the place. For the rest of us? Not so much. Our fashion makes a statement because we aren’t supposed to be willing and able to look fabulous and express ourselves this way. We’re suppose to be doing whatever we can to make ourselves less noticeable. In a lot of people’s eyes, there’s no way we’ll ever be “normal,” so the best we can do is cry about it and try to be invisible.

Well, screw that, I say. Make yourself noticeable. Create positive representation. Fuck societal ideals of beauty. Just being fabulously fat in a public way is inherently radical. Embrace it!

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Liebster Award For New Bloggers

A lovely & stylish fellow newbie blogger (we actually started our blogs the same day, 2 weeks ago today!), Julie at At Least I Look Cute has nominated me for the Liebster Award for new bloggers! This award is for new blogs with under 200 followers to promote their new blogs. Once nominated, bloggers answer 11 questions posed by the one who nominated them, and then nominate 11 of their own favorite new blogs. Sounds fun, right?

So, here’s a chance for you all to get to know me better! Here are the 11 questions and my answers:

1. What’s the best fashion advice you’ve ever received?

To eschew all fashion advice that you don’t personally like. Or, to put it simply: f*ck flattering! No horizontal stripes, nothing that shows your stomach, wear dark colors….the traditional fashion advice for fat women is basically to try to fool people into thinking we’re not fat, which is ridiculously stupid. So, wear what you like, no matter if it follow the “rules” or not!

2. What was your biggest fashion fail?

Welllll once in high school the crotch of my jeans split wide open while I was in school. That was embarrassing. Damn chub rub!

3. Why did you want to start a blog?

I already posted outfits on the fatshionista community, and on my tumblr sometimes, and I thought making a blog expressly devoted to my own original content, rather than it getting lost in the midst of reblogs about everything under the sun, sounded like fun.

4. What’s your dream job?

Ha! This question! Well, right now I’m studying politics and history….and I have no idea what I want to do. None whatsoever. Slightly snarky answer: my dream job is winning the lottery, so I can do all the other things I love and not worry about money 🙂 Real answer: I guess I need to figure that out!

5. Where do you get style inspiration?

From all kinds of amazing bloggers! You can see some of the list in my sidebar, and there are a lot of great plus size fashion bloggers on Tumblr, too. Not that I’m only inspired by fat bloggers, but, well, I’m more likely to be able to reproduce a look on a fellow fattie than one I see on a thin person. Plus, we see enough images of thin bodies, I like to train my brain to recognize positive images of fat people!

6. What’s your favorite magazine and why?

I don’t really read a lot of fashion magazines; see the above-mentioned bit about the glut of thin bodies in the media. And I haven’t really come across any great plus size publication yet. I do read newsy magazines sometimes, though, like the Atlantic, the Wilson Quarterly, and so on.

7. What motivates you to keep up with your blog?

I have a lot of fun taking my outfit pictures and sharing my style, as well as sharing some of my opinions. This blog hasn’t gotten too political yet, but it’s only been two weeks! Remember the third “f”; you’ll certainly be hearing more about it from me at some point when I have more time to write.

8. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

I have absolutely no idea. I couldn’t tell you what continent I’ll be on, much less exactly what I’ll be doing with my life!

9. Where are your favorite places to shop?

Everywhere that carries my size! Which is sadly few. But my main go-to places are ASOS Curve, Dorothy Perkins, Forever 21+, and Target. I think those 4 make up well over half my wardrobe, actually! As well as secondhand shops, eBay, and the like, of course. I’m a poor student!

10. What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to?

Mumford & Sons last year, I’d have to say. But really, I’m not much of a concert-goer.

11. What are you passionate about?

Lots of things! Fashion, I guess. My political beliefs, based in feminism and of course fat acceptance. Traveling. Delicious food. Spending time with the people I love. Photography maybe, although in that arena, I’m less motivated these days.

Thanks again to Julie from At Least I Look Cute for nominating me!

Now, on to my picks. It was quite a challenge for me to find 11 new blogs; in the end, I only had time to find five–oops! If you know of any others I should check out, let me know 🙂 Instead of the vague definition of “new,” I went with the “less than 200 followers” rule, so some of these aren’t really brand new, they’re a few months old, but they do have less than 200 Google followers (and funnily enough, all of these blogs are on blogspot so you can see the follower count).

Gladrags & Handbags
Secondhand Rose
A Dress Is For Life
Does My Blog Make Me Look Fat?
Fat Fit Fine
Izzy Gets Bizzy

Should any of you lovely ladies like to answer some questions & post this on your own blog, here they are:

1. How did you first get interested in blogging?
2. Is your fat fashion blogging political, or do you just like to post fashion and happen to be plus-size?
3. Where do you get your style inspiration?
4. Is there any store/brand that you really wish would expand their size range?
5. What trends do you like for the current season?
6. Do you follow fashion “rules”?
7. If you weren’t a fatshion blogger, what kind of blog might you have?
8. If you could blog as your full-time job, would you?
9. What’s your “dream job”?
10. Do you have anything in your closet that’s so awesome, you bought more than one of it?
11. How would you describe your style in 5 words or less?

Thanks for reading, everyone!

Lace in Black & White and Terrible Things On Television

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Today, I was hanging out with a friend, and we were eating Chinese take-out and decided to put on some television. She asked if I’d ever seen “Suburgatory,” and when I said I hadn’t, insisted it was really funny and put on the first episode (I think it was the first, anyway). In this show, a teenage girl who at first seems pretty tough and like she won’t be taking anyone’s shit, moves to the suburbs from Manhattan. She hates it and is really unpopular, doesn’t fit in at all. First minor issue I had was that when some of her new classmates made fun of her and said she was a lesbian, there was no point made ever that, you know, it would have been okay if she actually WAS a lesbian. But, moving on. The real issue was when she was in a basement with some of the other teenagers, and they were playing truth or dare. One girl dared a guy to “kiss a lesbian,” meaning the main character. She kept saying no, she wasn’t a part of the game, no, she didn’t want to, and the guy moved closer and closer to her and said that a dare was an obligation, he had to do it. And then, despite her protests, he kissed her. I still had some hope for the show and for this girl being a badass; I said out loud to my friend, “I hope she punches him in the face. That is sexual assault! Dude, it’s called consent! Kick him in the balls!” But…no. Instead, the storyline continued to say that it was okay because she enjoyed the kiss, in fact, they went on to make out several more times, and then she ditched him because he was bad for her “like a bag of chips” and she had willpower….WHAT THE FUCK, is my general reaction. It’s like, rape culture is okay and also food has moral value! Which is NOT what I want to see from my media, thanks. Super fucked up with no one in the show seeming to have any idea that it’s fucked up. I mean, this is the heroine of the show! And to boot, it wasn’t even that clever or funny. Definitely NOT going onto my list of shows to watch….

Anyway, rant over. Outfit details:
Cropped black jacket: Torrid/via Fatshionxchange
Cream lace dress: Forever 21+/via Fatshionxchange
Belt: Came with another F21+ dress
Earrings: Forever 21
Black tights: Worthington/via JCPenney
Black mid-calf boots: Route 66/via Kmart