February’s over…..So it must be spring, right? Right?!

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I don’t think you can really tell in these photos, but my fingernails are mint green, too, which I quite like. Today is just your typical day of class, procrastination, a short run to the grocery store….except tonight I’m booking my tickets for Spring Break! I’m going with a friend of mine to Lithuania and Latvia for a total of 8 days. It’s going to be exciting! Try explaining to that to people not particularly knowledgeable about geography, though….I ended up telling my mother and aunt that I’m going to the “top right corner of Europe.”

In other news, it’s still not spring (it’s 34 degrees farenheit right now outside), and I’m still pretending otherwise. I did see the sun briefly yesterday, though!

Outfit details:

Blue cardigan: Thrifted, originally New York & Company (USA)
Green lace dress: Xhilaration via Target (USA)
Blue belt: From another Xhilaration/Target dress (USA)
Mint green leggings: Next (UK)
Flower cut out shoes: Forever 21 (UK)

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Introducing Marvelous Mondays! (This week’s theme: Pleats!)

Welcome to Marvelous Mondays, a new weekly blog challenge between myself and Sian at Sort Life Out, Buy Milk. Make sure to go check out her outfit today, too! We’ll both be creating marvelous outfits based around a certain item or theme every Monday.
Our philosophy: Monday is nobody’s favorite day of the week, but maybe its terrible reputation is a little undeserved. We’re on a mission to make ours (and hopefully yours) a little less awful by dressing marvelously!
This week’s theme: Pleats!
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My outfit today is in keeping with my recent pastel theme, as I clearly wish it was already spring. Sorry for the weird colors in the photo; unfortunately it’s really cloudy and dark here today, so the light was not cooperating. And in my attempts to brighten up the picture, I somehow now look like someone’s home snapshots from the 1960s. I’m just going to call it a “vintage aesthetic” and go with it!
Here are some close-ups of my earring and shoes:
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Outfit details:
Pink lace/pleated dress: Next (UK)
Mint green leggings: Next (UK)
Glass earrings: From a street fair (USA)
Brown flower cut out shoes: Forever 21 (UK)
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If you have a fat fashion blog and want your Mondays to be marvelous, too, feel free to get in touch with us via emailabout the possibility of joining our weekly blog challenge!
Jocelyn: fatfashionablefeminist@gmail.com
Sian: sian_morgan@live.co.uk

Casually Foxy

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This outfit was perfect for a comfy, casual day spent catching up on reading for school. It’s nothing special, really, but I think the sweater is super cute! Not much more to say about this one, but stay tuned! Tomorrow I’m going to be announcing a new regular feature in collaboration with another awesome blogger, and it’s going to be fabulous.

Outfit details:

Fox sweater: Old Navy (USA)
Gold hoop earrings: Target (USA)
Dark green shimmer jeans: Forever 21+ (USA)
Brown boots: Lane Bryant (USA)

Skating On Thin Ice

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Okay, so I’m super glad that skater skirts are a thing these days, but it seems like trying to find good ones in plus sizes is needlessly difficult/expensive! As with pretty much every item of clothing I have ever lusted after, but this seems pretty basic and like it should be easier. I want skater skirts in cute spring colors, too! This is ASOS Curve’s cheap version (cheap for ASOS, anyway. The expensive one is something I’m sure you’ve seen around, it’s a tailored skirt made of better fabric, and it has a belt), and it’s pretty nice (though I should have gone down another size, this is almost too big). It’s made of a stretchy jersey with a decent weight to it, and there’s also a black version I might have to pick up too. And I really hope they come out with some nice springy pastels, coral or mint or lilac or something.

That’s where my silly title comes from, anyway: Spring is coming! The ice is thawing! At last. Sort of. It snowed yesterday here. But, you know, I like to keep hoping, and at some point, I have to be right!

Outfit details:

Gold stud earrings: Dorothy Perkins (UK)
Lace sleeve bodysuit: Forever 21+ via Facebook sales group (USA)
Oxblood jersey skater skirt: ASOS Curve
Black faux leather jacket: Xhilaration via Target (USA)
Houndstooth scarf: Random shop in Berlin, Germany
Black leggings: Kmart (USA)
Booties: Kmart (USA)

Why My Fat Is Different From Your Fat: Some Thoughts On Thin Privilege At Different Sizes


(Image from Google Image Search/ Originally on a really annoying newspaper article I don’t want to link to.)

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about fat identities, thin privilege, and smaller fats in the FA movement. This is just some musing on the subject; I am not any authority on it, and my information and ideas are of course cobbled together from dozens of different articles and blogs that I don’t specifically remember. This post is particularly inspired by some bits of and comments on Marianne Kirby’s article, “How Not To Be A Dick To Your Fat Friends” on xoJane.com (check it out if you haven’t already!), but if I’ve unwittingly borrowed from some other specific source that I haven’t cited, feel free to call me on it.

I understand that, in the right culture/circumstance/whatever, a lot of people might identify as fat, that I don’t think are actually fat. I know people have said that in Asian cultures, the threshold for “fat” is a lot lower. I know that people who have struggled with body image issues/body dysmorphia for a long time might identify as “fat” even when they are thin by society’s standards. And I understand that sometimes, people who are relatively thin are called fat, and they choose to embrace it and go full on fat acceptance, which as far as reactions to that situation go, is definitely a positive one.

It’s not my right to draw the line at who can and cannot identify as fat. I’m not the identity police. Although, most of us can agree that in a US American culture, someone who is a size 8 is not fat. Still, if they are identifying that way, there are obviously deeper issues at work here, and we don’t need to criticize them for it unless they insist on taking up a lot of vocal space in fat spaces, because then we run into a whole different issue. But if they just want to identify as “fat,” well, it’s not our place to judge where they’re coming from.

HOWEVER. You can’t deny that thin privilege works on a scale. A size 4 has privilege that a size 14 doesn’t, who in turn has privilege that a size 24 doesn’t, who yet again has privilege that a size 34 doesn’t, and so on. I’m definitely fat. But I’m not the only fat person in the world, or the fattest person in the world, and my experiences, while true for me, don’t make someone else’s conflicting experiences less true.

To go for an often-cited example,it’s true that off-the-rack clothes don’t fit anyone properly. However, there are even fewer and fewer options for us to try on as we go up in size. I have two stores in my local mall that I know I can find something at just to cover my body with relative ease. Not promising it’ll be cute or good quality or fit well, but it will physically cover my body. Were I a few sizes larger, I wouldn’t even find that.

It’s not all about clothes, of course. It’s about fitting into public spaces that were designed with thin people in mind: narrow aisles, flimsy chairs, restaurant booths, airplane seatbelts, and so on. Even if you “feel fat” at a size 10, you are alway going to fit into chairs and seats, wherever you go (except, like, a kindergarten class or something). Size 20? Maybe. Size 30? Doubtful.

It’s about being able to find positive representation of people who look like you in the media. I mean, we can all think of the handful of fat actresses out there who manage to get good roles, and they’re positive examples, sure, but for the most part, the largest of them are about a size 20. If we really want to see positive, diverse representation of fat bodies, we have to seek it out for ourselves, often through fat fashion blogs/tumblrs/social media. The fact that thinner people see positive representations of people who look somewhat like them everywhere they go is a privilege. We have to literally retrain our brains to see fat as not being automatically bad or gross or ugly (or at least I did, upon discovering fat acceptance).

It’s not a contest. It’s not a contest for who has it the hardest, and you don’t get some sort of prize for whining the loudest or ignoring other people’s truths. It’s just a fact of life that this is a sort of privilege that, to some extent, works on a sliding scale. We have to recognize other people’s lived experiences without getting defensive and thinking that they invalidate ours.  We have to respect and listen and, if we truly want fat acceptance for the world and not just for ourselves, we have to fight against even those problems that we don’t personally have. For example, I have never had a problem fitting in seats on airplanes. However, I will still fight for people who do, for the fact that they should not be shamed, humiliated, denied a seat, or made to pay extra just because they have larger bodies. It’s not about thinking “oh, it could be me one day;” sure, it could, but that’s not the point. The point is basic human dignity, and that all people deserve it.

Still Waiting….

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I am beyond ready for spring, and I think you can definitely see that in my outfit today! The pastels, the florals, the light cotton skirt….Not really appropriate for February, but I paired it all with my lilac peacoat when I went out.

The top is actually a peplum top from ASOS Curve, but because I’m terribly clumsy, I somehow got a stain on the peplum part 😦 Fortunately, I can still wear it tucked into high-waisted skirts, and I love the color, but it’s quite sad!

Speaking of skirts, the skirt is a Large from H&M’s main range a few years ago…and the last piece of clothing I bought from H&M was a size 3X. You know the sizing is crazy when you own clothes in 4 different sizes from the same store! That’s exactly why numbers don’t mean anything.

Outfit details:

Mint top: ASOS Curve
Pearl earrings & pendant necklace: Dorothy Perkins (UK)
Floral skirt: H&M (Germany)
Lilac skinny belt: ASOS Curve
Lilac leggings: Next (UK)
Booties: Kmart (USA)

Back In Action!

I’ve been sidelined with the flu for the last couple of weeks, and haven’t really been dressing up much…or getting dressed at all, some days. So that’s the reason for two weeks of silence, and completely failing at participating in fatshion february, but now I’m back!

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Sorry for the slightly grainy/out of focus photo; natural light is not really cooperating with me today, as it’s dreary and overcast and dark outside.

My semester at school has just gotten going (we have a weird schedule and don’t start until the first week of February), and it’s going to be a busy one. Crazy busy really. But I might be going to Riga, Latvia for spring break next month, so that’s pretty exciting! That’ll be two new-to-me countries visited in just the first three months of 2013 (the first being Iceland), so I’d say I’m off to a pretty good start in that regard. I’m also hoping that as the weather improves this spring, I’ll be up for some more local traveling, exploring Northern Germany and spending time in Hamburg, Hannover, Bremerhaven, and the other nearby cities that I’m able to travel to for free with my student pass.

Outfit details:

Light brown cardigan: Mossimo via Target (USA)
Brown flower stud earrings: Dorothy Perkins (UK)
Pink peplum top: ASOS Curve
Coated skinnies: H&M (Germany)
Taupe lace up booties: Kmart (USA)